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Amam
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Hi, I'm wondering if there are any first time mommies in their late 30s out there. Just wondering how you're coping with being a mom at this point of your life, especially when you're a working mom.
ping26
Member
hi Amam mummy
I'm mid 30s, can?
I'm coping well cos we are blessed with a sweet & easy baby. We have a good helper also in her 30s. Together, we can cope with 1 little tot. I work 3 or 4 days per wk.
It was tougher physically in the first 8 mth & when she's unwell. Now I'm able to spend more time playing with her and she can play alone for a little while. I leave her at my mum's or in-laws' place when I work. Sometimes I bring her to work too :001_302:
Our girl is 13+ mth now.
It helps that she's quite fast in development & very sociable so hubs enjoys playing & talking with her now. He didn't do much when she was a wriggly baby.
She's like a mini-me. amazing.
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Amam
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Hi Ping, we're neighbours cos I live in Sembawang. Mayb can hang out some day? Last Dec I just had my 1st baby when I was 36. Have been SAHM since then but will b returning to work in July.
Firstly I'm wondering if being in my late 30s mean that I'm less energetic compared to the younger moms. My 5 mth old baby can just be too tiring to handle. I feel flustered and frustrated easily and sometimes just tired trying to manage him. Now I wonder if I would have any energy left for him when I return to working full time. The worst thing is I don't have someone reliable e.g. mom to rely on to help look after my baby when I'm at work. And if I hire a maid, I would still need someone to supervise the maid. Sigh.... Of cos ideally I would love to look after my baby until at least he is 1 yr old.
You're lucky to have the support and having more time for your girl. If only I can be as lucky... Sigh....
Firstly I'm wondering if being in my late 30s mean that I'm less energetic compared to the younger moms. My 5 mth old baby can just be too tiring to handle. I feel flustered and frustrated easily and sometimes just tired trying to manage him. Now I wonder if I would have any energy left for him when I return to working full time. The worst thing is I don't have someone reliable e.g. mom to rely on to help look after my baby when I'm at work. And if I hire a maid, I would still need someone to supervise the maid. Sigh.... Of cos ideally I would love to look after my baby until at least he is 1 yr old.
You're lucky to have the support and having more time for your girl. If only I can be as lucky... Sigh....
Phoebii Cheng
Well-Known Member
Hi Amam, I am also a working mother in my 30s......I send my son to infant care since he is 5 mths old.....till now he is in PG.
So weekdays I only take care of him at night, and weekends got my hubby to help me take care of him. Moreover, housework is normally done by my hubby while i concentrate on my son......
Now tht my son is 2yrs plus....he is running a lot and yeah sometimes it is difficult trying to catch up with him, but I treat it as exercise....:tlaugh: just enjoy every moment, cos' they r growing up fast.......
So weekdays I only take care of him at night, and weekends got my hubby to help me take care of him. Moreover, housework is normally done by my hubby while i concentrate on my son......
Now tht my son is 2yrs plus....he is running a lot and yeah sometimes it is difficult trying to catch up with him, but I treat it as exercise....:tlaugh: just enjoy every moment, cos' they r growing up fast.......
ping26
Member
yes, life was a blur in the first 8 mth. I can't recall parts of my life last year. Although I have a helper, I take care of baby at night. So sometimes, I'm a walking zombie during day. I catch up on sleep every Friday.
I think infant care is a good choice. Otherwise, I think there are plenty of babysitters in this neighbourhood. I see so many big families ard. :001_302: u can try babysitter til 1.5 yr, then opt for CC. It's really hard to get a good helper. After seeing my sis's & my 1st maids, I would never trust an infant with them, with or without CCTV. Or do u have a relative who's willing to supervise? My maid is main care-giver as my mum is too busy fighting fire with my nieces. LOL
If yr hubby is supportive, it's possible to cope without a helper. Mine is super lazy. He leaves most chores to helper & me. Just delegate out chores, then u will have enough energy.
Like what phoebii mummy says, time just zooms past us. Now that her boy is older, life is easier.
We have loads of fun with baby every weekend. it'll only be a few more mth before yr boy starts crawling, standing & talking.
Today Christine wanted to brush toy cat's mouth with her toothbrush. Sometimes she'll want to give drink to her toys. so cute. She wants to take my handbag too.
a few more mth, yah? Then it's time to play
I can meet up on Mondays sometimes. PM me.
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Amam
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Hm, infant care? Phoebii, which centre did u send your baby to? I have friends who are against sending their babies to centres cos they scared their babies will fall sick easily cos contact with other babies. How was your experience like?
Ping, my hubby is supportive in other matters like helping to look after our baby but he put his foot down when it comes to doing household chores. So, he thinks that since I can't do a good job at keeping our house clean, a maid will be good. He's also against sending our baby to a babysitter cos he's concerned about the language that our baby will be exposed to.. He's a foreigner and he wants our baby to speak his mother-tongue as a second language. Right now we're communicating with our baby in English.
I need to act fast to settle who should look after our baby. Sigh...
Ping, my hubby is supportive in other matters like helping to look after our baby but he put his foot down when it comes to doing household chores. So, he thinks that since I can't do a good job at keeping our house clean, a maid will be good. He's also against sending our baby to a babysitter cos he's concerned about the language that our baby will be exposed to.. He's a foreigner and he wants our baby to speak his mother-tongue as a second language. Right now we're communicating with our baby in English.
I need to act fast to settle who should look after our baby. Sigh...
am mid 30s as well - but still on maternity leave, baby coming 2 months
Phoebii Cheng
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tpwareashley
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Hi mummies,
I am also a first time mum in my 30s. I'm a SAHM for now, freelancing whenever there are any suitable projects. I'm looking for a job cos I don't think I am cut out to be a good SAHM. I am grateful to have the chance to be with my baby almost 24/7 ever since she was born but I do realise I miss the "outside world" too.
I am also a first time mum in my 30s. I'm a SAHM for now, freelancing whenever there are any suitable projects. I'm looking for a job cos I don't think I am cut out to be a good SAHM. I am grateful to have the chance to be with my baby almost 24/7 ever since she was born but I do realise I miss the "outside world" too.
Phoebii Cheng
Well-Known Member
pepperphibs
New Member
Hi,
I was 35 when i delivered my daughter in oct last year.
Very tiring i find, dunno whether got stamina to catch up with her next time. She wasn't planned for but she's definitely a blessing.
I was 35 when i delivered my daughter in oct last year.
Very tiring i find, dunno whether got stamina to catch up with her next time. She wasn't planned for but she's definitely a blessing.
Phoebii Cheng
Well-Known Member
Just take things slowly....you will have stamina when the time comes....:tlaugh:
pepperphibs
New Member
Thanks Phoebii! Can't help but worry cos when she's 21,i'll be sooo old oredi!
Phoebii Cheng
Well-Known Member
Don't worry we are all here to keep each other company.....:tlaugh:
ping26
Member
I feel tired & zombied cos my 19mth old still wakes up for milk feeds. There were some nights that she was asleep by the time I picked her up from my mum's place. Felt so sad.
I try to bring her out as often as I can.
We've been so tired & busy; I think I only read a few books to her for the last few weeks. There was a period of time that I used to read to her every night.
Coming back to a happy baby is indescribable joy and blessing
I try to bring her out as often as I can.
We've been so tired & busy; I think I only read a few books to her for the last few weeks. There was a period of time that I used to read to her every night.
Coming back to a happy baby is indescribable joy and blessing
isabelandrew
Active Member
Hi there, mid 30-s can ? Honestly just like what you guys were saying I really can't recall what happened in her 1st 12 mths!!!! I got MIL to look after my girl but she needs her off days and special occasion Thingy. So it was stressful for me. I got a taxing job as a finance Mgr. It didn't help that I need to work very late. By the time I got home my girl is asleep and during weekends, I am dead tired. So I am super guilty about the bonding stuff. But thank god, she loves me most. I make it a point that I am the carer when she is sick.
Many times, I wonder how those successful career woman can juggle between work & young kids. Sometimes I thought I am lousy so that' s why I cannot cope well. Lucky my husband helps with the housework .
Recently I decided to take the plunge to resign cos the workload is crazy. Imagine I hv to do my boss's job on strategic planning, daily stuff.. But I know I am not that SAHM . I go crazy. My girl is 2 hrs old Liao once I settle her at CC I start to look for another job..
Not too good a resume later but it is the promise of unconditional love... If u know what I mean
Sembawang? I'm at woodlands- can I join d gathering
Many times, I wonder how those successful career woman can juggle between work & young kids. Sometimes I thought I am lousy so that' s why I cannot cope well. Lucky my husband helps with the housework .
Recently I decided to take the plunge to resign cos the workload is crazy. Imagine I hv to do my boss's job on strategic planning, daily stuff.. But I know I am not that SAHM . I go crazy. My girl is 2 hrs old Liao
once I settle her at CC I start to look for another job.. Not too good a resume later but it is the promise of unconditional love... If u know what I mean
Sembawang? I'm at woodlands- can I join d gathering
ping26
Member
Hi there, mid 30-s can ? Honestly just like what you guys were saying I really can't recall what happened in her 1st 12 mths!!!!
Many times, I wonder how those successful career woman can juggle between work & young kids. Sometimes I thought I am lousy so that' s why I cannot cope well. Lucky my husband helps with the housework .
Recently I decided to take the plunge to resign cos the workload is crazy... But I know I am not that SAHM . I go crazy. My girl is 2 hrs old Liao
Sembawang? I'm at woodlands- can I join d gathering
welcome
me too. I also wonder how'd working mums w many kids do it, ar?
I envy you. u can stay home & look after yr girl. But I can't do it without helper. hee. Doing hsework is so tiring. I'm also planning to some changes to my work next yr
will PM u later or tmw
Hi! I'm also a first-time late-30's mom haha... finally got preggy n delivered my bb girl when I was 36! She's now 17 months old and I'm already 38! My god time flies faster than the wind!! Am I like the oldest one here haha?
pepperphibs
New Member
Hi MamaMyra,
I'm just a wee bit younger so don't worry. I delivered when i was 35. Baby now 17 mths plus too. Where do u stay? I'm in the east. Looking for playmates for my gal cos friends kids all around 5 yrs old, all don't like playing with her. So poor thing!
I'm just a wee bit younger so don't worry. I delivered when i was 35. Baby now 17 mths plus too. Where do u stay? I'm in the east. Looking for playmates for my gal cos friends kids all around 5 yrs old, all don't like playing with her. So poor thing!
ping26
Member
hi hi
I'm wee bit older than u. I'm also looking for same-age playmates for my girl (23mth) cos my friends have many kids (no need & no time to go out) or kid is much older. I can only go out on Fri cos it's my off day. PM u later...