applebreeze
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Hi all,
I like to post this situation on behalf of my sister who's experiencing it.
She is getting married next year. To save cost, she and her hubby are gonna have a wedding buffet lunch cum solemnization at a bungalow chalet instead of wedding dinner. Itinerary is morning customary and follow by wedding lunch in the noon.
The problem now lies with the customary, it is gonna be done out of respect for both side of parents. My sister is cantonese so roast pig is a must have from the guy's side. The guy's side is teochews, so to them 'si dian jin' is a must have for their daughter in law right? If they give also symbolises that they accept her into the family and shows they can get along ma right. But the thing is when my sis tried to bring tis up to her future in laws, the mum especially changed subject saying when the guy's elder brother got married last yr, she only gave a gold bracelet during the tea ceremony. But to my family's and many ppl's perception, tea ceremony and the bride dowry is a different issue, isnt it?
My sis came back to us and told us what happened, my mum was saying to her, She dun wan to give 'si dian jin', nvm. But next time when my sis married into the family, the MIL cannot bully her in any way. Is this true?
Now my sister and her hubby is very vexed over tis issue. They want both parents to see down and talk bout the terms. My parents are willing to minimize the items if they have a budget. But the guy's parents' attitude really sucks. The items that my parents want for my sister are:
- roast pig
- guo da li
- si dian jin
I wanna ask, are these things too much to ask for from a cantonese family?
Dear all,
I need your opinion on this and some solutions. My future brother in law is also fed up wit his parents. to the point he says, if they refuse to compromise, he will ROM wit my sis and fly off to honeymoon. No celebration at all. This is really upsetting many ppl. Pls advice.
I like to post this situation on behalf of my sister who's experiencing it.
She is getting married next year. To save cost, she and her hubby are gonna have a wedding buffet lunch cum solemnization at a bungalow chalet instead of wedding dinner. Itinerary is morning customary and follow by wedding lunch in the noon.
The problem now lies with the customary, it is gonna be done out of respect for both side of parents. My sister is cantonese so roast pig is a must have from the guy's side. The guy's side is teochews, so to them 'si dian jin' is a must have for their daughter in law right? If they give also symbolises that they accept her into the family and shows they can get along ma right. But the thing is when my sis tried to bring tis up to her future in laws, the mum especially changed subject saying when the guy's elder brother got married last yr, she only gave a gold bracelet during the tea ceremony. But to my family's and many ppl's perception, tea ceremony and the bride dowry is a different issue, isnt it?
My sis came back to us and told us what happened, my mum was saying to her, She dun wan to give 'si dian jin', nvm. But next time when my sis married into the family, the MIL cannot bully her in any way. Is this true?
Now my sister and her hubby is very vexed over tis issue. They want both parents to see down and talk bout the terms. My parents are willing to minimize the items if they have a budget. But the guy's parents' attitude really sucks. The items that my parents want for my sister are:
- roast pig
- guo da li
- si dian jin
I wanna ask, are these things too much to ask for from a cantonese family?
Dear all,
I need your opinion on this and some solutions. My future brother in law is also fed up wit his parents. to the point he says, if they refuse to compromise, he will ROM wit my sis and fly off to honeymoon. No celebration at all. This is really upsetting many ppl. Pls advice.