lonerjas
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i read all ur posts with interest, & i salute those of you who choose to "grin & bear it" whether with ILs or your own parents (read= MOTHER).
i'm very lucky to have a very understanding MIL. i stay with ILs so she's helping take care of my bb. she respects my methods & decisions. my mother is a different story however.
whatever it is, it is important for parents to remember that at the end of the day, it is about YOUR child. YOU and YOU alone are responsible for their health, upbringing & the values you impart.
if you disagree with certain methods or schools of thoughts, SPEAK UP. you have every reason to. yes, try to make them understand. but at the end of the day if your choices & decisions are still not respected, then you really should put a fullstop.
if it means pulling the child out from the environment, then by all means. remember that every single action & word placed on the child may create a lasting impression. becos everyone is defined by their upbringing.
when it comes to our children, it would be an injustice to do that "Asian thing" of keeping quiet & "hoping for the best".
Too easy to be said than done.. Like u say u r lucky to have gd ILs.
I tink if most of us insisted our ways den conflicts are bound to happen.
DH oso suffer as he is hamburgered, end up will be qaurreling with ILs or DHs. Not all ILs are understanding and educated to reason. Some MIL can be really damn bitch ( cry lah threaten don wan help look after lah ) I mean is really not easier to handle and diff family have diff issues Unless u ever been in the situation otherwise very diff to understand..
Worst still if stayin together wif ILs LOL